Slipping again

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Slipping again

Postby asc » Sat Sep 21, 2013 10:18 pm

After today's rat show I feel useless and incompetent. The financial problems make things so hard.
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Re: Slipping again

Postby Beautifully_Broken » Sat Sep 21, 2013 10:32 pm

What happened at the rat show to contribute to your feelings?

I don't think you are useless and incompetent. In fact, I think the complete opposite! You are brilliant at what you do!

Finance problems can really bring you down, I know from experience and I don't really have money demands! I'm not really sure I have any suggestions for how to deal with this!

Keeping you in prayer!

Love, Ruth x
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Re: Slipping again

Postby asc » Sat Sep 21, 2013 10:54 pm

I had three good show rats in a cage, but two clearly disliked showing, but now Revel has decided to sulk for the judge. The judges say I should sort out my 'cage dynamics' before entering again. I hope to get a couple of girls socialised before the next one.

I really feel that I;m not being forgiven for what happened at the Tendring show.
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Re: Slipping again

Postby Keziah » Sun Sep 22, 2013 8:54 am

You would not know two do not like showing until you tried. Try not to take it too personally. You yourself said 2 did not like showing and the 3 in one cage did not work, so what the judge said may not have been said nicely but maybe it was meant to encourage people showing rats how to improve?

Why not draw up a budget to look at finances and decide how much you have in each month and how much you have going out that is essential:- rent, food, bills, essential items for rats etc. then see how much is spare and choose how to spend it? So you may have to choose between rat shows for financial reasons or so on. Now I have a baby and not working so much ai have to keep re-evaluating finances. So this year we could not afford a holiday at all, not even a weekend away so chose to house swop with someone for free. Well we could have had a holiday but would have has to go without other things and for us the holiday bill was easiest to drop!

Most people have financial concerns and choices to make. There is a Christian organisation that is a charity that helps people manage money and avoid debt, oh what is it called??
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Re: Slipping again

Postby Hash » Sun Sep 22, 2013 6:40 pm

It's called CHristians Against Poverty and Ann was meant to be going on their money management course, did you go Ann? it's really good we have it at our church and it helps so many people who are in debt.

I am sorry the Rat Show did not go as well as expected Ann, maybe when you socialise and sort out the cage dynamics for next show it will work better. Maybe you were not meant to go to rat shows but just enjoy your rats at home.

Hope I have not offended you

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Re: Slipping again

Postby asc » Mon Sep 23, 2013 12:07 pm

I can assure you I'm not offended. My position is awkward in that I have just too much in my 'savings' - an annuity which I can't withdraw from - to receive any benefits.

I'm just feeling as if I want to go to bed and hide away from the world, where I can't see what needs doing. Also, in bed I'm pain-free, when I'm up I'm not.
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Re: Slipping again

Postby sally » Mon Sep 23, 2013 1:48 pm

Ann,

I'm sorry you are feeling low and finding the finance worries endless and overwhelming.

I have 'shut the world out' days. I guess one or two might be fine, but I know for me that if I hide for too long, it isn't really helpful. And the stuff that feels too hard and horrible is still there waiting for me!! I know that before, you were working on small tasks, just a bit at a time.

Is there any way in your current situation you could try to break things down in that way, one job for each day and definitely you should plan in a couple of days off too! Would it be possible for us to encourage you with that plan, or might that feel more imposing, stressful or unhelpful?

Your finance issues have been around since you retired and were given bad advice about investing. I imagine you have already looked in to all the possible options to try to improve your situation now. Might you be eligible for DLA which isn't means tested. Sorry, DLA is Disability Living Allowance. Just on the basis of your physical health, you might be successful.

I am praying for you,
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Re: Slipping again

Postby Keziah » Mon Sep 23, 2013 7:15 pm

Sadly DLA does not exist anymore for new claimants - new people applying have to apply for something else at least, only existing people on DLA keep it and over next years it will all be moved over to Personal Independence Payment. And it is only available for people up to the age of 64.
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Re: Slipping again

Postby sally » Tue Sep 24, 2013 1:33 pm

Thanks Kezzie.

How are you feeling today Ann?
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Re: Slipping again

Postby asc » Fri Sep 27, 2013 9:02 pm

Losing another rat under horrible conditions which made him look neglected leaves me feeling dreadful. I put water there but couldn't make him drink it.
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Re: Slipping again

Postby sally » Sat Sep 28, 2013 2:26 pm

I am so sorry. That sounds very upsetting. Please keep reminding yourself that you did all you could.
Go gently, remember you are having a hard time at the moment.

best wishes,
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Re: Slipping again

Postby asc » Sat Sep 28, 2013 9:15 pm

Another of my favourites is very ill, and also I have intolerable pain.
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Re: Slipping again

Postby Beautifully_Broken » Sun Sep 29, 2013 9:02 pm

It sounds very distressing for you. Remember it's not your fault and you are doing everything you possibly can for your little furry's.

I'm so sorry you are in so much pain. I know how awful it feels, so I can sympathise. Unfortunately I haven't got any words to make you feel better. Just know that you are still in my thoughts and prayers.

Much love, Ruth x
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Re: Slipping again

Postby asc » Mon Sep 30, 2013 11:42 am

Thank you for your prayers.
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Re: Slipping again

Postby sally » Mon Sep 30, 2013 1:29 pm

How is your poorly rattie today?
I am sorry to hear another one is unwell.

How is the pain today?
Im praying for you now, Sally
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Re: Slipping again

Postby asc » Mon Sep 30, 2013 10:28 pm

Diamond is improving, although still chesty. She's a lovely little girl.

My coccyx and buttock pain is still a nuisance, but I see my GP tomorrow and hope to be referred to the pain consultant again.
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Re: Slipping again

Postby sally » Tue Oct 01, 2013 2:13 pm

Hope the GP appointment goes well.

Did she make the referral to the pain consultant? I hope they can come up with some ideas of how to help you be in less discomfort somehow.

I'm glad Diamond is recovering now.

best wishes, Sally
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